Overrated professionalism

The most overrated concept of men and women being strong with inner strength and happiness is directly linked to the exterior part of their life. Person’s job, related success, skills and ability to survive in a work environment is not the parameter to conclude his/her success in life. There are many men and women behind the cover of their professional attire suffering from humiliation, victims of either getting attacked or attacking others to bleed them. The work and work-related success mostly is a way of escaping from such life. The success on the job, being workaholic and wearing some other mask is a mechanism to counter the life's challenges that are not being able to resolve. At times it’s labelled and concluded especially amongst the educated world, how an educated and professionally successful person can not handle the situation in personal life? will this person be able to execute job well? That’s the biggest mistake we do when we judge people based on what they achieve in office. We ignore them. Every successful person and skilled person can also be suffering from depression, anxiety, fear and lack of understanding of life. That needs some kind of attention and help but one is not able to take such help or support because of t
he image he/she carries within the organisation. They have to put up with the same drama for the sake of people around, job security, fear of losing the position or peer acceptance. This is a never-ending vicious circle for them. As a Foundation, we come across many of such people who are caught up in such cross identity issues. They are Managers, HODs, Entrepreneurs, Police Officers, Women Executives etc. superficially it looks they are suffering from some kind of issues in life but when we see the deep down we experience that they are suffering from the crisis of life. childhood trauma, loneliness, lack of love, the burden of life's challenges, facing the issues of their own expectations from life, unable to balance the personal and professional world, caught up in relationship issues, unable to live life with freedom and more. Many a time these are phases of life which corner them to be what they are in their personal life. Society, Corporates and organisations have to look at them with compassion and care. Everyone needs dialogue and a hand to come back, bounce back or to face the reality so someone can help them with a mirror. We always tell our clients that don't assume a person based on his/her professional success and if you get a person who is successful in the job yet unsuccessful in personal life, need help and support then with a high level of confidentiality and dignity. Help a person come out of the crisis without him/her feeling fear of loss of identity, job, image or prospects. We also tell the concerned person to separate professional image and attached pride and accept that you are another human being who can suffer from the blows of life and need help. You can not be a winner all over sometimes you need someone to guide you in spite of you being theoretically knowledgeable about it. When reality is faced by anyone its difficult to translate theory and information into practice. It needs a lot of patience with self and daily routine. you need someone to constantly have a dialogue with you. We tell organisations to create such dialogue champions or outsource where they can speak up confidentially. Let there not be any person lonely inside and successful outside. Like Employee support program please create Executive Support Program. Need not be published in the organisation but shared as information to any new/Existing executive to know where to turn when there is an internal conflict. Poornam Foundation has been working on these areas since 2012. While working with police and during the research, we stumbled upon such cases to realise that top 20% of the society suffering different way then the middle 60% of the society then the bottom 20% of the society.