Male birds are beautiful then Female birds...

 There is something very unique in the world of birds. Male birds are beautiful, they are able to bring out beauty by way of showing off their colours, dance, beautiful sounds they make and keep doing this for long. All this for what for a female bird who is not as beautiful as them. However it s an effort to win over her. In the world of bird species or non bird species the fights and wars and possessions have been over the female species. There are two ways the male can conquer a woman one by way of fighting for her or wooing her. This brings out a very good analogy in the typical world of male and female world then those who are not fighting for the woman or not wooing that female then what are they doing ? Look at the world today there are hardly any opportunities to fight for the women. We are no more warriors. We have designated warriors who fight for the territory we call them armed forces or men in uniform. Then there are men inside the territory who are looking mixing around with women and are beautiful and charming like a Male birds but they have nothing to wooo about because the society has been created in such a way that female are supposed to meet males at certain age and make family. The only thing then that remains for them is to choose the female. Here the difference is that the females are chosen by the looks and beauty first, then the worth education culture family and status and then if nothing is possible then go for anything that connects you.
The quality of a man to achieve and conquer has lost. There are less challenges and opportunities. The white collar man thinks he is working, earning and socialising is the way he is conquering. It's not conquering but living in a world which is already stabilized.


Yet the primary desire to achieve and conquer doesn't go away then it gets transferred into various acts that are risky, violence, Inflated ego , unreasonable demands and illusionary macho man image formation . There is a continuous studies going on on this subject across all fields of human psychology. It's difficult for a man to keep his status compared to woman. There is not much has changed for a woman except addition in her work but for a man it is the same and challenges to fit into the social framework which is changing and confusing is difficult. There is a requirement of lot of awareness and education around the fluctuating social identity.

Why don't you flow ....its your nature

One can flow within and outside. In the connectedness of surroundings with awareness when flowing happens it brings joy. This joy is of knowing and accepting everything. Good & Bad, Beautiful & Ugly, Sad & Happy & so on.. nothing matters except temporary expressions arising out of it with knowing the vastness of being into it. Life looks more like an engagement while you are flowing..you are everyday engaging yourself into something knowingly but you are not attached to it. As you are flowing your engagement and events associated to it are taking place in its own rhythm and space. This flow guides your engagements, drive your events and makes you feel you are bigger than them. Everything is changing coming and going but you are flowing…there is stillness in your flow because you are connected to the bigger space, universe, nature, inconsistency, your own vibrations, experiences…. it’s a parallel force that flows within you..

Feminine Wisdom -Flow of Energy

Feminine Wisdom is nothing more than listening to our inner voice, be ye man or woman. The Goddess energy is very powerful now and it is time that we utilize this energy to improve our lives. Everyone (this includes men) is comprised of male and female energy and until balance is achieved, one side will dominate. Male energy is on the right side of our bodies and is represented by the sun. It is electric, active, and giving. Female energy is on our left side and is represented by the moon. It is magnetic, receptive, and creative. Concepts or ideas are conceived on the female side and brought to fruition - into the physical world - by our male side.

The Goddess energy has been suppressed on this planet for eons. Over time women have been treated as property, second class citizens and have been abused physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Gloria Stienman's push for equality of the sexes has propelled women forward in the work place, politically, and allowed for women to experience greater freedom in general but a disservice was also done. Some women who chose to stay home and raise their family felt inept because they were not contributing to society. Women burned bras, wore pants, became workaholics, all to prove that they were as worthy as men. In reality what happened is that many women embraced their male energy while suppressing their female energy.

Women used to outlive men by eight years because men had the "stressful jobs" but now we have almost caught up because stress-related disorders are on the rise for women. Wow, we really showed them didn't we? I have been watching the Goddess energy awaken and have found it very fascinating. "New age" and the secular world have begun to develop and facilitate classes, workshops, support groups all for women. Women over 40, women who have been abused, women who have an eating disorder, women who are indigent and the list goes on and on. I am not against the support that is being given, I just feel that we missed the bigger picture and I would call that picture Feminine Wisdom.

Feminine Wisdom is the allowing of the feminine energy to flow freely through our being and to be expressed in whatever manner it chooses. This means that men and women should be permitted to base decisions on intuition alone. Individuals who have jobs that require them to make quick decisions often go by what their "gut" tells them because sometimes you can not have all of the facts - they are using their intuition. I feel that intuition should be used and accepted in the workplace.

Feminine Wisdom to me also encompasses compassion, empathy and nurturing qualities. These are traits that men and women both share. Unfortunately our male energy has a way of making these qualities seem unimportant. Most work environments do not support the feminine energy, but the time has come for that to change. I believe that when we all embrace the Goddess within, our entire world will transform for the better. I know so many women and men who have embraced their feminine side and I admire each of them.

The world admired Princess Di and Mother Theresa - why? For the very qualities I listed above. They embodied their female side and allowed the energy to flow out of their male side to accomplish world work. People to this day toss flowers on memorials to Princess Di and shrines have been built, but this is not using wisdom. What should be done is the continuance of Di's and Mother Theresa's work with the poor, homeless and afflicted. Workshops and classes need to be directed to both men and women. People need to learn that embracing one's feminine side does not make one a wimp or weakling. Our feminine side is very strong - this is how the Goddess has been able to tolerate the neglect she has received for the last few centuries.

Our world requires change if it is going to survive. I am talking about the planet herself and also mankind. The destitute conditions of our planet and our intolerance of one another are sure signs that the time has arrived for each of use to embrace our Goddess within.

SYNTHETIC SISTERHOOD

Women and feminine aspect, by nature is collaborative, inclusive and connected. Sisterhood is about being together for each other. However, consumer world has created this Synthetic Sisterhood that has influenced not only our Gender identity but our collective outlook. The Industry has created this consumer based sisterhood where men and women are identifying themselves with xyz clan because of the products they are using. This is nowhere related to the political, social and economical persspectieve. On top of that now days there is a focus on Male emotions. Products are promoting emotional man and Power Woman. This is again crating a new wave of disparity between two genders and two aspects as male and female within that are complimentity to each other. The change is required to discover originality of each gender. However the lifestyle driven and consumerism driven society is influencing our minds and relation with self. Children are exposed to such consumer based Gender identities through media and Internet. 

We need true sisterhood which does not create lifestyle driven disparity and loyalties.

Gender Identity Development

One of the critical aspect of developing identity is Gender Identity

Although often used interchangeably, the terms "gender" and "sex" do not refer to the same thing. "Gender" refers a broad set of characteristic qualities that distinguish between masculinity and femininity and includes personal attributes, social roles, social customs, activities, and behaviours. Furthermore, the characteristic qualities associated with a particular gender vary over time, and across cultures. For instance, at one time it was not considered very feminine to play sports; however, in contemporary Western culture both men and women play sports with equal zeal. Unlike "gender,", the term "sex" is a constant across time and culture and refers to a biologic, chromosomal determination of being either male (XY) or female (XX). In simplest terms, sex is biological while gender is sociological.

During early to mid-adolescence, youths' understanding of gender is quite rigid and stereotyped. As a result, younger adolescents will typically participate in more gender-stereotyped behaviours than do older adolescents. This means that girls will gravitate toward more "girly" activities and present an ultra-feminine appearance, while guys will lean toward more "guy" activities and present an über-masculine appearance. There are a number of reasons for these gender-stereotyped behaviours.

LOVE & LOVE DAYS

Valentine’s Day is celebrated as a day of love and relations, remembrance of people who loved you in your life. What is love, it’s a feeling of being cared, attended or a feeling of being paid attention. When love starts you need lot of attention and approval from a person who is with you. The approval later becomes a mindset of a person where you attach yourself with in love. We loose everything to that person who becomes finally the controlling authority of our actions. The actions then change into authority. One becomes the authorised person who directs the actions of other. After some time everything entangles into a stage where love gets lost and control stays. We feel control is the only way to show your authority over other person. Also feel if there is no control, possession or if no attention given to us we feel lost. The love takes back seat it becomes the window that opens only once in a while to inhale fresh air. It is closed and opened based on the needs and requirements. Life becomes a place of possessing something holding onto something and wanting that to stay with you forever. You want various situations, events & actions to express your love to another person..In this world of wanting or not wanting is there a place for love to breathe? Love is free flowing. It is a part of you which never want to get restricted. It comes automatically without our conscious efforts but we always try to capture it with conscious actions. These actions are to please, control, posses, exhibit love. What if we drop out of love? What will happen? What if we remain calm, & first feel it with the connect with your lover, feel the strength of each other, feel the belonging with each other..which may happen when you are together or far from each other. The distance doesn’t matter. Think of a day when you sit and look within yourself, feel that you are losing your love, there is a feeling of not getting enough attention, a feeling of constant approval, a feeling of possessing it..If you are not into in these feelings with your lover means you are in love truly, you become love and love flows within you. The true lover stays with you for the flow, for being and not for what you do.

Then it becomes contagious and spreads all around you. 

Happy Loving Day

In Between being woman…I found this space

Suddenly you are boundless and hopeless. Does that mean hopes are diminishing? no way hopes are there but I am not struggling to full-fill demands through hopes. I take every moment as comes, feel the moment and leave it there from where it appeared in front of me..again ready to float into the vastness and wildness of the empty world.I see myself beautiful and radiant...a woman is radiant and beautiful..we have to empower ourselves from within..

In between being a woman there is a space that I found today..Its amazing place and does not allow us to hold on to anything and we float yet we are anchored. Two ends are always full of feelings and desires. We swing in between two for us or others. It leads us to attach and relate ourselves to something that consumes most of our time and space. when we leave these two ends we fall and its a free fall. Suddenly you find you are not falling but floating, nobody is trying to pull strings to take them to the either of the end. Its a empty place. we are into grinds of life so much that we have forgotten about such empty places. We love to be alone many a times but we fear to go there.